crush turning 180
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
Ihave been happily married for over 18 years and have a wonderful exciting life. I recently traveled to another state to take care of family business, and met a guy who was involved in the business and offered to help in any way. Including picking me up and driving me around when I needed instead of renting a car. He did this on one day (fly in and fly out the same day) and treated me like a rock star. I clearly detected flirting right down to the country tunes in the truck. Then for several months, he'd call and flirt on the phone. I had, and still have no intention on being unfaithful to my husband, but I admit, I loved being flirted with. Lines such as, "am I going to see you again? I'm anxious to see you again" and then when I arranged for the next trip, involving family members, he asked, on the phone "how are we going to get some time to ourselves?" I could not get this guy out of my mind, but still had no intentions on acting on any physical urges.Besides investing 18 years in a good marraige, this guys is really not anything like me, it's all in the looks, and excitement of the crush. I flew back down for 3 nights, my family members for 2 nights (I stayed to do more business) my "friend" made such obvious flirting moves, direct eye locking, shoulder contact, hair pulling, more eye gazing, the up and down look, each of which sent my stomach into butterflies. On my last night in his town, we arringed to "do something" which turned out to be dinner, and he picked me up, took me to a nice place, ate half his burger (burger?) and complained the whole time about his work and dropped me off, and on the way back to my hotel, he carefully selected a country song that was about people from 2 diferent worlds. The next day, he had several opportunities to say goodby, or even call, but did not.
I know the logic here, I am not available, but my heart is sick as if I were in high school. I know the flirting signs, but then he just switched. I was hoping for at least a friendly time....could this have been possible?
How can I get over the sadness for what was never meant to be?
My guess is that he got cold feet about his "plans" for seducing you.
Or perhaps you said something at dinner which made it clear that you weren't going to get closer to him.
Those are the two most likely answers that come to mind.
How do you get over the sadness? Just give it time... these things happen and then fade away.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com