Confused and Hurt Part 2. (more confusion)
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i recently emailed you with a question titled 'Confused and hurt' i spoke to my ex about how she was (didn't dive to deep into why she'd changed her mind) but we just talked about how i was gettin on and how she was, she kept askin all these questions about how i'm doing what i've been up to and lately i've been sorting my life out gettin a new job and moving my life into a direction i want it 2 be in. She kept telling me on the fone how proud she was and how well i'm doing without her and how she felt she'd held me back, at this point i could hear her crying but she told me she wasn't, she then went on to ask some more questions and then said that i'm better off without her and she's really happy for me (at this point she was crying worse than before) she wouldn't tell me why she was upset just said she was fine and that she wasn't crying and towards the end of the conversation i asked again and she told me she didn't know why she was crying and therefore didn't know what 2 say, i don't know if her crying is that she misses being in my life and hearin abotu me gettin with it is upsetting her or whether something else is bothering her i don't know what 2 do and i'm worried that she's broken up with me for the wrong reasons and is tellin me she doesn't love me anymore just 2 make me move on so that she doesn't have 2 talk 2 me as much so she can try and move on eventually please help
You should continue to have phone calls with her if she is willing.
Since she won't tell you why she changed her mind and since she was crying on the phone, my first guess is that she has found a new b/f or had a fling.
Next time, gently bring up that possibility and see how she reacts. There has to be something to explain her behavior.
Best of luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com