Do I still have a chance?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi George, I haven't written to you for a long time, but once again, I need your help.
I don't know if you remember me, I think you don't, so I will try to explain my situation from the beggining.
There is a girl who is in my class (classes are over now) that I like since October 2005.
At first, I thought it was only a crush, so I didn't care very much, but later I found out it wasn't, we didn't talk very much at the beggining, but we started talking more, and more (she didn't know I liked her) and in Christmas holidays, I went to the cinema with her.
Some time later, she started talking less to me, and I had a friend of both of us, talking to her about what I felt for her.
After that she started ignoring me completly and as I couldn't stand that, after 2 days, I went to speak with her, and she agreed that we could be friends and she would stop doing that, she also said that she wasn't interested in me so, the best I could do was get over her.
Sometime after that, things started getting better again, we currently speak to each other a lot more than before that avoidance thing, and she invited me for her birthday party that is next week, I think she thinks that I don't love her anymore.
I really love her, and want to make her happy, I think that I just can't be happy without her.
We work out very well as friends, and I think that we are compatible for a relashionship, but even though she doesn't want to be my girlfriend I think that if she tried and we both made an effort, it could work out, it's a matter of trying.
Can I talk to her about that, and ask her for a chance, without ruining the friendship that we currently have, or should I just get over her and move on?
I'm prepared to wait for her if I have to, I tried to get over her once, and I wasn't able to do it, I just can't get her out of my head.
Thanks and sorry for this big mess .)
Your best bet is to remain friends with her but don't let on how much you care for her.
You can talk with her, trust her, and be affectionate to her and that will build up your relationship.
Telling her your true feelings runs the risk of her dropping you again. But if you are able to become a best friend she is likely to start developing feelings for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com