Confused and Hurt
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i have recently broken up wiht a girl who i had bene with for almost 2 years, we've had bout 3 months of roughness now and the last couple of weeks she'd be flirting wiht me alot, and kept askin me 2 ring her and talk 2 her and come over and see her, everytime i did she gave the impression she still wanted me and it quite often ended up me and her gettin rather intimate and her leadin my hands so i know i wasn't gettin the wrong signals, this had happened up till last friday and then she stopped talkin 2 me over the weekend, she got back 2 me on the sunday and said that she no longer had any sort of feelings for me and that she doesn't want 2 be like that anymore and basically went back on everythign, even after telling me she still really loved me and cared about me alot, she told me the 2 weeks we spent flirting was a mistake and she doesn't want any kind of relationship like that, i found out that she still talks about me 2 some of her friends but is avoidin me completely after tellin me she wants 2 still be friends, she doesn't speak 2 me online txt me or anything whats goin on? am i missing something or is she just being wierd? and how do i fix it because i still love her alot, we have always connected really well ever since we very first spoke there's been a spark between us what can i do?
The first step is to, if you can, find out what made her change her mind.
Call her up and try to get her to discuss that subject. Make sure she knows that you still love her too. Perhaps she just needed a break from you and will come back in a while. Meantime keep the channels of communications open so that there is a chance that trust and affection will return.
Take the time to write her a nice long letter explaining to her how much you care for her and how much you miss her. Reading those words may make the feelings in her grow.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com