Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Person
I really haven't faced anything like this before and I can't even begin to fathom what's going on, so any advice would be helpful.
Well, we're both 16 and we'd been dating about 10 months. One day I went to his house and we had a fight but we were totally fine when I left. Two days later he got online and told me he wanted to break up but he'd come over the next day and talk about it.
Anywaysm he came over and basically told me we fight too much and he's unhappy. We do bicker a lot, but not really serious fights. I got really upset and started crying and he kept saying he wanted to go home but I told him not to because I was sad. After awhile I saw tears down his face and when I asked why he was crying he said it was because I wouldnt let him go home and he lay down and started sobbing. And I know he's not sensitive enough for it to be just because I told him I didnt want him to leave...
Then I had to go to work for a few hours so he said he'd come back after, and he did. And he said 'let's go for a walk' and he took me down by this lake and just held me and I asked why he did that and he said 'because it makes u feel better' and I dont remember what sparked it but he said maybe we just need a break but we're not officially on one or anything. Then I asked if he was going to be gone forever and he said 'I have a feeling I wont be', then he said 'who knows, maybe we'll meet up 5 years from now and start dating again?' and I'm like 'five years?' and then he's like '...or a couple months.' and I asked him if he loved me at all anymore and he said '...I don't know', but this was after he claimed earlier he knew he didnt.
The first few days he didnt really talk to me but now he usually IMs me the second he gets online and things like that. Ive just been giving him space and trying to give him his 'break' as this is what me and my friends thought would be best.
Also, one of his friends told me she asked him if he was happy the day after he dumped me and he said no,he was really sad.
I'm just really confused, I want him back, because we had a lot, and I don't know what to do.
You are doing the right thing by giving him space and time.
Take advantage of his contacting you to build up your relationship. Communications are a very important part of a relationship and when you two talk you are building trust and affection again.
At the very least, you will be reforming a good friendship which usually is the first step toward a romantic relationship.
Be patient and gentle with him and he may react the way you want.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com