What CAN I do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
When it comes to 'how far i will go' i have set limits for myself that i will not break. I will not have any type of sex (including oral) nor let my boyfriend's hands underneath my pants until im married. however, i'm incredibly comfortable with my boyfriend, and i DO want to have fun within the boundaries i've set. he of course knows how far i'll go, but he would be willing to go further if i was.
I want to be able to have fun without getting him into thinking that i changed my mind about my limits and im ready for something that i'm not. So what CAN i do that will not make him think that? For example, if i let him take off my shirt would it mean in his mind that i was ready? i wouldnt mind if he did that, but i dont want to be leading him on either. If i'm wearing shorts and i let him kiss my thighs... is that going to do the same thing?
I understand that he will of course be thinking about going further no matter what i do, but i don't want him to think that that is the message i'm trying to send.
thanks for any advice you can give...
Best thing to do is communicate openly and honestly with him.
Tell him you haven't lowered your standard at all but that you are willing to be a bit more adventurous. Tell him exactly how so he has no doubts. He will appreciate your doing in so and you will more comfortable and also you both will enjoy closer intimacy.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com