Should i stay or should i go?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend of 1 year has cheated on me and lied to me, i found out through her that they have been dating for 3 months and i had a feeling that something was going on but i didn't know he was actually dating her. She had know idea about me, anyway to make a long story short, i broke up with him and she supposedly doesn't want him either. He kept calling me and wanting me back, telling me how much he loves me, he even bought me an engagement ring to show his level of commitment and how serious he is that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Then just this morning, i checked his cell phone and there was a txt message from her to him,it said "are you sure you want to work things out? i am not mad, i'll try", i confronted him about it and he said she txted him and he told her that he wanted to be friends with her because they have mutual friends. I don't know if he is lying to me and still seeing her behind my back or if he is telling truth and i am just being paranoid. Help! I have to decide wihtin 30 days if i want to wear the ring or not, i don't want to make a mistake, i want to hear someone else's perspective about it.Maybe you see something i don't see, maybe i just love him so much that i am ignoring the fact that he is still seeing her and will never change.
Tell him you need to regain his trust.
Say you want him to let you know whenever he has contact with her, no matter how small. He should be willing to work with you to regain trust.
If you discover that he isn't letting you know about his contacts with her then you shouldn't trust him any more.
He should also show you that he means it when he is telling you things.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com