Im trying to do whats right
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
There is this boy that I have been friends with for two years. Unfournately we are 2 years apart and Im older than him and no that doesn't bother me. We became friends the year I was a freshman and he was in 7th grade his cousin who is in my class told me that he liked me but at the time I had already given my heart away to someone who ended up being a jerk. So it isn't until around January of my sophmore year that I start talking to him again. And for the few months whenever we saw each other we would either smile,wave, or talk to each other. However I made a mistake in April I was at the movies with my friends and he was there I sat by him and we just talked and smiled and just the way he looked at me..it felt good and it seemed like he liked me. So in April he told his cousin that he thought that I liked him and well his cousin and I talked and I told her that I did and she said that she would talk to him. Well he wanted me to call him so I did it was very nervewracking and I normally don't take chances but for him I was going to for him. But he told his cousin that he just wanted to be friends and he didn't want a girlfriend. I was hurt but I respected his decision. But after all that happended it got weird between us and for awhile we didnt' really speak he still waved. And one day a week or so before was out for summer (after school) I was waiting for my friend and he looks straight at me and smiles and waves and he did this for alittle while. I know this sounds wierd and stupid but I just don't know what he really wants. I feel that he wants to be with me but is just too scared or not ready. But I could be wrong. I just don't want to know that I ruined our chance for good. Thats why this summer Im giving him his space and not talking to him Im just letting him do his own thing. Now my question is that: Am I doing that right thing?
My advice is to contact him.
Tell him you would like to do things together "as friends" so he won't be nervous about the idea of having a girlfriend. Go out to movies, dinner, a walk, a picnic, or hang out any way you want to.
After doing this for a while, he will get over his nervousness and you two could become b/f g/f.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com