He doesn't have time for a girlfriend but I'm going through hell
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Yeah so.. I'll try to make this as short as I can. We broke up yesterday. My friend told me that my boyfriend had something to talk to me about. I called him up and asked him. He was quiet for a minute and then finally said, "Yeah I don't have time for a girlfriend right now. My mom is having problems and I'm going to have to work longer hours at work and I just don't have time so I'm sorry." I asked him if I did something wrong because usually.. yeah I do something wrong lol. He insisted it wasn't me but I can't help feeling that it was me because my last relationship ended and I was told it wasn't me but later the guy was talking to my friends sayin that I immature (which is funny because he was 19 and still didn't have a permit or a job.) But yeah my boyfriend never really was the type to call much and he rarely has his phone right with him and I'm scared he won't ever call because I do want to still be friends and we were going out for two months and everything was perfect and I was happy and I got so used to going and doing things with him every week.. but now I feel completely lonely and cryin alot and I keep remembering some little things he would do that would make me laugh and cry more because I feel like I won't have that anymore and I'm afraid I won't see him again. I would like him back although I don't know if I can in his situation and im giving myself panic attacks imagining him finding someone else if he soon does get time for a girlfriend.. Is there a way to get him back.. it doesnt have to work like.. right now. I just wanna keep talking to him and soon start back up again.
A good way to deal with this is to get him to agree that you can call once a week.
You would be calling to see how he is doing and to let him know you still care about him. Be cheerful, don't talk about your relationship, and keep the talk to 15 mins.
This will will not cause him pressure but it will help you keep in contact with him and hopefully get back together.
Good luck! George
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