i need help
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ever since me and my girlfriend have been broken up i have been depressed. and its not gettin any better eithier. weve been broken up for awhile now and she even has a boyfriend now, but for some reason i cant get her out of my mind. i think about her all the time and its gettin to be really bad. i dont know what to do to get her out of my head. i ve even tried datin other people but it only ended badly. i hate talkin to people about my problems and dont wont to talk to a counsleor or anything i juat need a way i can handle this myself. normally i wont even ask anybody for help but i need help. please give me some advice on somethin i can do without talkin to a counsleor or somethin like that. thanks alot
Very often we can't give up a lover because the manner of breaking up was unclear.
If this is true for you, that you don't fully understand why she broke up with you, then have a talk with her and try to find out. It's not an easy thing to do but would be helpful.
Another thing to try is to fight against those feelings for her. Whenever you think of her, tell the thoughts to go away and not bother you. Tell them that you are through with her. After about 100 times of doing this the thoughts will give up and leave you alone.
And, of course, keep yourself busy so you don't think of her. Working out... even if it is doing pushups can help. Running can help too. Keep seeing other girls, one of them may click with you. If you are up to it, talk this over with your friends, girlfriends, or parents. Don't keep it bottled up.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com