Jealousy is Destroying our Relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hello, I am currently struggling with the jealous feelings that have overcome me. I have been with the same girl for a year and a half and she is truly an amazing person, I love who she is. I think that my jealousy stems from the fact that because of who she is so many people like her and love her and that I take that as a threat to our relationship. I am jealous of her career as well.
I know that jealousy is an evil thing, and I know that deep down I am not an evil person but I am having a terrible time dealing with this. I am ashamed of myself. Please if you can offer any help on how to save this relationship, do so.
I have an entire how-to on dealing with jealousy -
you definitely have to make a serious effort to get it under control. It points to a lack of trust - you don't trust her to stay with you. You figure if she sees a better guy or makes enough money, she won't need you any more and will leave you. But really, people stay with people they LOVE which has nothing to do with money or looks. So the main thing at this point that could harm that love is your jealousy!
If you can't make headway on your own, I would really suggest talking to a therapist, even for just a few weeks. They might be able to get you started on a path to figuring out a solution.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com