Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
ok so here it goes. my question is really confusing. my girlfriend believes that she should control her feelings. she said that she is falling in love with me but she just doesnt want to fall in love. so now she is saying that she wants to control how many times we see each other and also already twice we have had to talk about breaking up cause she is afraid that she is going to fall too much in love with me. we had a problem the other night that kept us away from each other for acouple days without talking at all. and she said that she didnt like the feeling that it gave her. that she worried about me all the time and that she also doesnt like the way love makes her feel. she was treated badly when she was with her past boyfriends. but i dont know how to get it in her head that im not the same as her past boyfriends. so do you have any kind of advice that you can help me out with??
She says she doesn't want to fall in love with you because the feelings of love are not pleasant for her.
While she blames past boyfriends for this, the root of her trouble is probably deeper than that. It is impossible to guess where her fear of love came from... maybe her childhood.
Keep talking with her and make sure that she is within her comfort level as much as possible. This will take good communication on both your parts.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com