Does she really love him or is he a rebound
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
So I was with my ex for three years. We had been friends before we got together. We actually met in church. We are from the same home town too. We use to live in the same city as well where she goes to college, until I moved back to our home town to get into a medical program. The distance really put a strain on our relationship, but we had done it before in different times in our relationship and made it through. We also had become comfortable with each other and the relationship though.
So she just turned 21 this year in the start of Jan and on our anniversary ,Jan 28, we had a long talk about our relationship that I got a bad feeling from. So we had plans to go see a rock show together in Feb for our anniversary/valintines day. When we got there I could tell something was wrong. She said that we should take a break and that she needed more space and indepences and we should date other people. I did not take this very well. I tried to give her space, but we were still communicating. I also kept trying to do thing with her like go to dinner and stuff, but I realized though that I was just pushing her farther away by trying to reconnect with her. I realized this too late though because in April she started seeing another guy,who has a three year old kid, and he's 22. They have been together for a month now and she is already telling him that she loves him. She also isn't acting like herself. She's been drinking a lot more and partying like crazy.
So we went to another concert last weekend and it was just weird, I shouldn't have gone, but we had this plannend before the breakup. She also gave me the ring I gave her back while we were standing in line to get into the show right in front of the people we were with. So the day after the concert we had a talk and I told her that I know that I needed to change and that I am. I also said I was sorry for the wrongs that I've done to her in the past. I ended with saying the only thing I've ever wanted was for her to be happy and I ment it. She cried, a good cry I think, and I walked away. A couple of days later she said that we shouldn't communicate for a while so now we arn't talking anymore.
So now I don't know what to do. People keep telling me to just give it time and she'll figure it out or that I should move on because I can do better then her, but I still love her and I think she is the one for me. I'm also scared that this new guy is just a better version of me. The one good thing is that I am moving on with my life and bettering myself for the time being because there is nothing else I can do. So my questions are does she really love him or is he a rebound? Do you think she will give me another chance one day? Do you think this is just a phase she's going through or do I just give up on her?
It is too early to try to make these decisions.
Obviously you care for her and she is worth waiting for in your mind.
Keep on improving yourself and hope for a change for the better.
It is quite possible that he is just a rebound.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com