Help! I don't know what to think!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Me and my fiance have been together for 2 years now and we are getting married in 2 months. He has always seemed faithful, true and very loving towards me up until a couple weeks ago. He started becoming very irritated with me because I was always mad about his 19 year old immature friend hanging around and saying things that made me uncomfortable about other women. We got everything straightened out, but the other day I was picking stuff up and bumped his phone and a message that he had previously typed (text message) come up on his phone somehow and it said something like "Sorry I couldn't talk maybe call tomorrow". I confronted him about it and he point blank lied to me about it, and he knew later on that day it was still bothering me and he finally asked me if I wanted to know what it was. So he told me he was going to sing for me at our wedding but he didn't know if he could and he was supposably talking to this person about it - although he wouldn't say the person's name. Personally I don't feel comfortable about it because 1. he wouldnt tell me the name of the person, 2. he lied to me about it in the first place, 3. Singing to me infront of people is something he would NEVER do (he is "mr. big tough biker man") 3. He always faces his phone down on a surface instead of facing up anymore, 4. Always puts his phone on silent and is very aware of the where abouts his phone is, 5. After I found that he was being extra extra nice to me - and trying to be mr. lovey dovey, and 6. About a week ago he come home after we had had an argument about his stupid 19 year old friend and wanted me to sign off the house and everything and leave - just all of the sudden he wanted me gone (although he did change his mind). Wouldnt that make you feel maybe he was seeing someone else...all this put together? We're supposed to be getting married in 2 months and I pray every night that it isnt what I think it is. Can you help me figure this out?
Everyone feels antsy before getting married.
So don't be surprised if there are more blowups like when he wanted you out.
Have you considered pre-marital counseling? It would do both of you some good and get some things out in the open.
If you don't trust your fiance, you should probably cancel or postpone the wedding. Talk this out with him and make him fully understand what is causing your doubt.
But, be sure of what you are doing or you may find that what just might be jitters could make him an ex-fiancee.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com