hoping that he doesn't like me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i have a very close male friend who is several years older than me and i consider him to be like a brother. we instantly connected.
out of all my friends he's one that shares the most of my interests and we like the same bands. so whenever a show came to town he was the one i went with. we always had a good time together. he's been incredibly generous towards me: he always pays for my dinner, pays my way thru concerts, drives me all over town so i can run errands.
for a while i kept a distance from him because i didn't like him paying for everything. i've always been uncomfortable with men paying for stuff (even with boyfriends). i prefer to pay my own way.
one night soon after we began hanging out, we got into a serious conversation about relationships and love. i told him that although i had just started dating someone, i was still very much in love with an ex. he's been a shoulder to cry on, and he's been there for me and has always tried to lift my spirits.
recently we've spent a lot of time together and he's been driving me around town so i can look for a job. he's been dating a married woman and i've expressed my opinions about that. yesterday he called me asking for advice about whether or not he should continue seeing this woman who's dragging his heart thru the mud. after we talked about that he asked me if i was interested in anyone or dating someone. i found this to be funny cause i just saw him 3 days ago. he's a close friend and so far whenever i've into a guy, he's one of the first people i tell. he's asked me this question so many times over the past 5 months. it's annoying cause it reminds me that i am single and that because i have feelings for my ex, looking for another guy is not on my agenda.
i'm hoping that he just wants to be friends. my last boyfriend was a good friend of mine for a year before we dated and we don't even talk to each other anymore. i don't wanna ruin the friendship with this guy.
He may have fallen for you.
If so, he is the one who is ruining the friendship not you.
Next time he asks, tell him you still love your ex and have no interest in dating until that situation is resolved.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com