I like my best friend's sister
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ever since a year ago or so I have been attracted to my best friend's sister. I have known them both for almost 15 years, and for most of that time she was just his little sister, a little girl, to me.
Then, all of a sudden one day, I began to think of what ti woudl be like to have sex with her, but at the time I figured that it is just a fantasy and nothing to worry about.
Now, however, after seeing her more often, and particularly after having gone to out with her (not as a couple. we share an interest in certain types of msuic and sometimes go to cocnerts), and seeing how she has matured and learned to dress, make up and carry herself, I find her unbeleivably attractive.
As you may certainly well imagine, I am concerned with what her brtoher might think of all this, but that is not all: she happens to be a lesbian. I learned of that a cpuple of years ago, although I am not "supposed" to know about it, since she doesn't know her brother told me about it (he supported her when he found out, but he was very shaken, and needed to talk to me about his feelings), and therefore there is no way I could possibly broach that subject with her without causing embarrasment to many people.
So, I have this strong attraction to her, but I am affraid of what she would think, afraid of what my frined would think, and not even sure that this is even anything that will not disappear one of these days all of a sudden. Apart from that, this changes (obviously) the way I act towards and react to her, but I don't know in what way it should, for the best.
What do you think would be the best to deal with these feelings?
Give it a try.
Tell her brother that you want to ask her out despite the odds. If he is against it and you value his friendship then drop the idea.
Otherwise, ask her out and see what she says. She may be bi-sexual now.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com