What should I do now?Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
To start off the story I need to say that I'm in cell phone sales and I met this girl when she came in to upgrade her phone. We talked for a little while and found out we had a little bit in common from the short time we talked. She was smiling and laughing through our conversation. Turns out she was a bartender and she said she doesn't talk on her phone much, but texts a lot. She gave me two VIP passes to the club she works at. At the end when I go over everything with her she made a comment about the colors and I made a comment back in which she laughed and touched my arm. All my friends's and co-workers are after me to ask her out. Everybody is telling me what I should/shouldn't do.
I send her a text a couple days later asking how her night was and asking if she'd like to go to lunch sometime. The next day a friend asked if she responded and I told him no. He told me to send her a text that said "last chance... :)" So I did and she responded back shortly saying "thanks sweetheart :). I worked late last night and am headed to the gym. How's your weekend going?" I responded back telling her to have a nice workout and weekend was fine ect. The next day my friend tells me to text her again. I do so with no response back. The next day I was told to try again in which I did with no response. A few days went by and I was ready to drop it and a different friend suggested to try texting her again since it's been several days, against better judgement I did so knowing I wouldn't get a response.
This past weekend I went to the club she worked at with a friend to use the VIP passes. I was told if I went not to look that interested in her and if she buys me a drink that's a very good sign. Friend and I go in and after a couple minutes she comes over to ask and gets our drinks and then tends to the other people there. After a while she comes back over to where we are and says my name and asks me something about one of the things we talked about when she got her phone. We talk on and off while I'm there. She buy's me a drink. Then later on as I was gonna leave I told my friend I was just gonna tell her goodbye. I go up to her and thank her for the drink and tell her that I was leaving but I'd try and give her a call during the week to see if she wanted to catch a movie or something. She takes me hand and she gets up on the bar on her knees and leans over and kisses me on the cheek. I smile at her and turn around and am gonna leave. She doesn't let go of my hand/arm. I turn back to her and she smiles at me and says careful. I smile back at her and leave.
I waited around three days and gave her a call tonight but just got her voicemail. I left a message saying hey this is so and so and that I told you I'd get you a call during the week, and that I hoped she was feeling better and that I was wondering if I could steal her for lunch sometime this week and said to give me a call whenever. Now I called at around 9:30pm, so if she didn't pick up I'm not anticipating a call tonight. However, if it's anything like what happened during the texting I shouldn't expect a response. Now I have a very good friend that I've known for almost ten years that is like pulling teeth to get them to call you back or send you a message. Not knowing this girl well enough I can't see if she's one of those people or not, so I don't know what to do next. I can't keep calling or sending texts because I'll just be annoying her or look like I'm a stalker. Please any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
Drop by the bar again and ask her to go out to a fancy restaurant for dinner.
She seems to react well to spontaneity so go that direction.
Or ask her to go for a three day trip someplace nice.
You have to impress her.
Good luck! George
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