Best path?

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Here is the situation. I had fallen for my best friend a while ago. We hung out. I tired my best to impress her, helped her out, kept her safe etc etc. Despite that she ended up hooking up with somebody else.

Im a good judge of character. I have hit the nail on the head about her last few rlelationships and seeing that these guys were hiding their true mean selves. This guy sends chills down my spine.

Also their relationship is a strenious one cause he is not around all that often. This girl knows how i feel. And a while back actually confessed to me that she used to care for me the same as i did her but unlike me she never tried to do anything about it cause she was still hurt from her last relationship. I have a feeling she would give me a shot if this guy fell through.

Now, i am NOT going to waste my summer just waiting for her. I am going to go out and meet new people. Who knows what will happen. Her relationship might meet a breaking point very soon. Now here is my question.

She knows how i feel. I think we might still have a shot. I am going to still try to look else where during this summer. We have been friends for so long. What would be the smartest thing for me to do regarding having a shot with her down the road?

Still hanging out with her and being a caring person on the side. (maybe she will see me as still a very devoted human being who stuck by her through thick and thin to the end)


Laving her my number, telling her to give me a shout if she wants to hook up later and then vanishing from her life for a while (it will cause her to miss me. also maybe the next time she called me or saw me in a little while she might see me differently).

What path sounds more reasonable to walk?

Thanks Advice
Maybe this is the time for you to leave her alone for a while.

She may miss you and you'll be doing your own thing.

If it doesn't feel right or if the situation changes, you can always go back to the way you were.

Your option of changing things up seems good.

Good luck! George

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