scare of coming out of my shell
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
well. i had 4 steads all ended last then a month. i don't know what happen but i just feel that they are not want i wanted after we stead. the problem now is, i patch with one of the guy but due to his ex and myself afraid of going on with this relationship we broke off like within 3 days. after listening to one of his friend, i decided to give myself a chance to step out of my shell so i ask him for patch. now that we are together for the 3rd time, i now wonder why i am giving myself stress. i keep thinking that it is not going to work cos i don't love him but like him just a little if u know what i mean. and now that we are together for 3 days, i don't really know how to carry on. i don't know what to do. i want to step out of my shell but i don't know how. and i can't just ask him for break again right but he knows that i am trying and taking the first step. so now i just don't know how to carry on. please help.
The way to come out of your shell is to share feelings with others.
Start off slowly so that they won't be overwhelmed. Then gradually increase how much you tell them and what kind of feelings you share.
Without sharing your feelings, you won't be able to come out of your shell and you won't be able to get close to other people.
Give it a try, take it slow, and it should work out ok.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com