Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i broke up with my ex about a month and a half ago becoz i feel like he was takin me for granted...he agreed to it and said that its a nice a idea since he is so busy with work and dont have tym to be in a relationship especially with a gf like me...(i get mad wen he try to sleep early becoz i feel like hes not really goin to sleep, he will just to talk to somebody else, this da kind of gf i am)..a week after i was tryin to get back with him and he got irritated..i tried everything but it didnt worked.. so i gave up and decided to move on..i dont talk to him unless he calls me..(he calls me every 2days)but dats wer da problem started coz every after col i feel deeply hurt coz he tells me stuff like hes goin to watch movie with frends and dat he wer introduced to a girl..i was like how could he do dat while im here in the other end thinking about him ol day and suffering from being hurt...and about dat girl i think she likes him so i started to get jealous.. i txtd him about dat.. i told him dat i hope hel be happy with her and dat she would love him da way i did... he txtd me back and said shes just a frend, wat r u talkin about.. i didnt reply and den he called me, we talked about it..i told him i dont care anymore...it was a gud conversation, i felt like he was happy im jealous..then that was it we hanged up... after couple of days, i couldnt picture dem together, i realized dat i shouldnt be doin this to myself anymore, its too much for me to take... so i txted him it was over, dont col me, let me go, stuff like dat but he didnt reply.. i was so mad and txtd him dat i just wanted to talk to him and end everything in a nice way so we can be frends someday..i called but he didnt answer...so for me it was like, i made da right decision..wat i need advise for is how to forget him really.. i couldnt deal wtih the pain anymore..i tried everythig.. i dont call, keepin myself busy, read books, it didnt worked.. i tried to entertain new guys but he's stil da one i wanna be with, im stupid i know but i just couldnt get him off my mind... i feel like drinking a lot of sleeping feels so i dont wake up anymore and find out if im gone he will cry i tell me im sorry n i love u... im not gonna do it though..
You want to get over this guy.
First thing is to convince yourself that you really do want to get over him. To me it sounds like you are only part way breaking up with him. You have to go the whole way and really get him out of your mind.
It is a good idea to see other guys and keep doing it even though your mind may stray back to him. The more you are with other people the less chance there will be that you will think about him. Think of fun things to do with friends.
Promise yourself you won't contact him ever again until you are really sure that you are over him. Then you can contact him just to prove to yourself that it is true. It isn't easy getting over someone but you have to do it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com