Boyfriend's sexuality is confusing me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
okay, well i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few months now, and he just told me a few days ago that he is bisexual. i have no problem with his sexuality because i am bisexual as well, but i feel that he waited way too long to tell me, even after i asked him at the very beginning of the relationship and he pretty much lied and told me that he was "99.9% strait", but now he tells me that he likes both genders equally. my worry is that he might actually just be gay and not telling me the whole truth again, because he has lied about it before. also an ex boyfriend of mine also told me he was bisexual but turned out being gay so i think i'm focusing too much on that, but i just don't want to date someone who is not physically attracted to me because i consider that a waste of my time. i've already asked him so many times if he was actually gay and he always says no, and i know that i'm getting very irritating and should stop, but i can't help but wonder if he's just lying again. he's reassured me that he only wants to be with me and that he's not going to go off and leave me for some guy and he swears that he's still as attracted to me as i thought he was before he told me, but everything intimate we do and just being around him doesn't feel the same. i feel very hypocritical about this, because i feel like i can't get past it. i really want to stop feeling this way so i can enjoy the relationship but i just can't stop worrying. what should i do?
You've only been going together for two months.
He was probably too shy to tell you at first that he was bi. But now he has told you and you probably shouldn't worry about water under the bridge.
Tell him you want honesty in all matters from now on even if he thinks it might hurt you.
Then give him a second chance.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com