what should i do.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
my girfriend (32) and I (27)been going out for 2 months until one day i broke into her emails and found out that she was flirting another guy. i manage to know that guy's phone number so i can figure out if they calling each other. and here it is they been calling each other every single day and at least 3 times a day.(she doesn't even do that with me.)on the other hand she has been calling her ex boyfriend too like around 3/4 in the morning. after i mentioned to her that i'm very unconfortable with it she said that the first guy is a friend and he is going through though times, reason why she keeps calling him. as for her ex she keeps in touch with him because he is a friend now. couple days later when i insited about being unconfortable she decided to end our relationship by pretending that she is unconfortable around me by invading her privacy. i had a talk with her recognizing that i shouln'd invade her privacy and i'm sorry , that it will never happen again. but she doen't want to give another chance.we've been broke 20 days now and still can't ger over her, i guess i stil love her, and i even tell her that i want her to be part of life. i've called her twice just to say hi. if there is anyting i can do to get her back please let me know.
There are several bad things happening here.
First you invaded her privacy and that is a big mistake.
Second, she is talking with a guy every day for 3 times.
Third, she is call her ex in the middle of the night.
All of these resulted in a breakup.
The best you can do is to try to become her good friend again. Call her once a week just to say hi, ask her how she is doing, a let her know you still care.
Don't dwell on your relationship, be cheerful and keep the call to 15 min.
In my opinion, there is little chance she will come back to you so you should prepare yourself for that.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com