Does he love me or not?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have been dating this guy for 3 years now. We went to the same college, and graduated from the same high school, which is where we met. He was a senior and I was a Junior. Everything was always great, I got along great with his family, his brother even called me sister. I had a 3 month internship over our second summer together and we kept the relationship long distance and he came to visit me for a week. Everthing was great in the bedroom as well, we were eachothers "firsts", and we always did everything together, I thought we would for sure get married! We even talked about moving out of state. Well during my last year of college, I was up at school and he was at home, working. In my last semester, towards the end I went home fro spring break and he broke up with me, with the reason, I am too young. He had just turned 21.He said he still loved me but wanted to go out and have fun and not worry about me, but he said that this probably wouldn't last long, he just wanted to see how it would be. He wanted everything with us to remain the same. Well come to find out the week after he broke up with me he started having sex with another girl, who calls him. I asked him if this is what they were doing and he said yes. He said having sex with her means nothing to him.Also I told him that he couldn't possibly still love me if he could do this to me. He eventually told his family, like his cousins too that him and i would definatly be geting back together, and he still gives me presents on hoidays. he still calls me all day and we continue to talk. He even comes to visit me on my last couple weeks of school.
My question is...is it worth it to wait for him? I am still very much in love, but i can't belive he only waited a week and it doesn't bother him to hurt me this way. Should I expect him to comeback to me? or just try to move on??
Around age 21 people get a yen to go out on their own.
I've seen a lot of relationships getting into trouble when one or the other turns 21. You'll be there soon yourself.
It isn't pretty for the one left behind so you will need to let more time go by as you decide for yourself what to do. What he is doing isn't all that unusual and many couples get back together again. But you have to do what you think is going to work for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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