I want to work things out
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend for a total of 7years. We have been off and on throughout the years and he has cheated on me several times but I have given him several chances to work things out with me because we got together in our high school years and I assume that when he got older he would change and take our relationship more seriously. Throughout the years he has been in and out of jail and this also has caused problems to arise between me and him. He recently broke up with me for a lady who lives next door to his motherís house and I feel totally betrayed because I ran to his mother for advice and she didnít tell me that he was living with the other lady. When I confronted my ex-boyfriend and the other woman he acted as if he did not want to be bothered, recently we spent time together and he told me that he and the other lady had an argument and he told her that he still loves me. Right now I am hurt and confused because I know I should not try to be with him because he has not changed since I have known him and it seems like our lives are totally different he wants to live in the hood and I want to finish college and pursue a bachelor degree and it seems like he wont be able to satisfy me financially especially if I want children in the future but I donít think love is based on financial status and I want to be with him because I am depressed with out him.
Since you want kids, consider this.
Do you want your kids to have a father who is in and out of jail and who cheats on you regularly?
Also, you are putting a lot of time, energy and money into college right now and having a guy like him around can only endanger that effort. A good education is a stepping stone upward in life for you and your kids.
My advice is to drop this guy and you will find someone more like you in college.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com