Break up or not? please help me decide.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my fiance for 4 years but he is still living off of his dad. I do admit I live off of my parents (we are only 21 and 24) but I have plans to move out on my own and take care of myself. His idea of moving out is his dad buying him a house to move into across the street from his dad (which is happening). I love him but things just do not seem to be working for me. I can only think of the bad things. For instance, a bad accident which was due to his drinking, and him standing me up at my own sister's wedding. I have recently met a wonderful man who has goals in life for work and family. I would love to take the chance to get to know this man but I do not know if i am ready. I love my fiance but I do not feel we are on the same track anymore and he always turns things around onto me when I tell him how i feel! Please, honestly do you think i should stay with him or should i take a chance with someone who can provide a future with me? And how should i go about this. I have not told him about the other guy because it would just hurt him and nothing has happened between me and teh other guy.
You are 21 and it is not unusual for 21 year old to want to strike out for something new and more freedom.
This may be happening to you. Don't jump into marriage without giving yourself a chance to be yourself or you will be resentful later.
My advice is to tell your fiance that you need some space and want to see other guys. He won't like it but you have to think of yourself first.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com