I am confused about my feeling
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, me and my boyfriend have broke up recently about a month ago. I am so upset. I've been begging him to give our relationship another chance, but he thought it doesnt work because we broke up once before and similar problem seem to occur in this recent one. We were mostly lacking of respect and communication, but he told me he lost the feelings for me when we broke up. We always argue about little issues and never get a chance to solve the problem, apparently he saids I never listen. He seem so determine about our break up this time. I am so confused, people around me was telling me he doesnt deserve me because he is treating me this way. But deep down my heart I still miss him and want to get back with him. Sometimes I said to myself I should forget about him, but sometimes I really miss him and want him back badly. He hurt me so badly in the last two break up, but I still love him? Is this normal? does this mean he is my true love? or I am just not to use to it yet? Do you still think there will be a chance between us? Please help. Thanks
There is always hope that you can get back together.
Remain friends with him and work towards a mutually communicative relationship. This seems to be the problem you had in the past.
Constant interrupting is probably the biggest destroyer of listening to another person. Also thinking about what you are going to say. Practice active listening and give him verbal feedback that you are listening. Say things like "right," "uh-uh," "ok" etc. so he knows you are listening.
Recount to him his conversation so you can make sure you understood.
These things may help.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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