Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i asked my ex back and he's considering it. i am trying hard to communicate with him and i rack my brain every single day to find stuff to talk about, but he isnt opening up. what should i do? it seems as though he wont allow any connection between us. he is giving me a chance to prove myself but it's not going well - i don't know how i can get him to feel more comfortable around me. i think he feels that the things i talk to him about are shallow and irrelevant, and they annoy him. but if i talk to him about deep topics all the time he's gonna think i am being fake and manipulative. what sort of things do u say to ur ex if you want him back? when i open up he backs away, and when i dont he STILL stays away. either way, i lose. what do i do? he's a pretty serious, deep person. he's very resolute but so far he hasn't made up his mind about me yet. hes gonna come up with a decision soon, and i want it to be a good one. if it is a bad one he will stick to it anyway and it would be totally helpless. please help.
It sounds to me like you are trying VERY hard to communicate with him but it just isn't clicking.
Take a look at the following webpage which has a lot of ideas for conversations: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/whattalk.asp
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com