How to really get over with my ex-bf
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ive been with my ex-bf for almost a year and we broke up almost 8 months ago. I can say that our break-up wasn't good. He treats me as if i was not his girlfriend before. I really did everything for him to take me back,-i cried, beg name all, i did it. i know it was strange coz he betrayed me but still i forgave him for what he has done. he really pushed me away from him, tell words that really hurts me, shout at me and even hurt me physically. And now Im trying everything to get over with him, im not calling him for 2 months now coz before everytime i call him he's so mean and get mad at me, or he doesnt want to talk to me.
I kept all the memorabilias that we had in one box, i can say that my new environment now help me a lot, as ive told you on my first letter, we just migrated here in canada and he's in the philippines. But still theres a time that all the things he has done pops up in my mind and i just cant help but cry because until now i really just cant beleive that he has done those things to me and sometimes blame myself why i let him do those things to me. No contact really helps me and not asking his sister what he's up to. I just want to ask for your advice on how to get through this pains, to get over with my ex-bf. And what are the best thing for me to do inorder for me to forget all the bad things he has done coz its really sucks and hurts me alot. Thank you and your advice is very much appreciated
Maybe you are holding on to your old b/f because he reminds you of your homeland and the good times you had there with relatives and friends.
Try to think of those times with him out of the picture.
Pay more attention to Canada and get involved in sports, hiking, bicycling, movies, concerts, going out with friends, religion, and finding a new b/f.
Whenever thoughts of your ex come into your mind, tell them to go away because that is ancient history and you don't want to think of it.
You own your mind and you can do with it as you please. Use it to forget him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com