Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
okay.. we broke up over 2 months ago and a few weeks back i talked to him. i told him i wanted another chance and he seemed happy. he agreed to think about it. but then the next time i tried to talk to him about this he got irritated. i think he wanted to talk about other stuff besides getting back. so we chatted, but the problem is he's not talking. i'm the one always trying to come up with topics and he'd be really cold and give me one-word answers or something of the sort. but i know he still loves me, it's just that apparently there is something missing. he is giving me a chance to show him what he wants to see, the problem is neither of us knows what it is that is missing, its just not there. he said he doesnt know if he will accept me, cause he doesnt feel like i am trying (but i feel like im trying REALLY hard, especially by talking) and he hates the feeling i give him when we talk. i dont know whats happening but how exactly should i get him to open up and be more talkative? i tried being REALLY talkative myself, but it just annoyed him. i dont know what to do. his cold silence is killing me. what should we talk about? or what should i do to make him feel more comfortable? by the way this is all through instant messaging.. so i really need help. if we can be more comfortable around each other online, then perhaps he'll be more friendly at school. right now we're still sort of ignoring each other at school. help!!
You are trying to get him to communicate with you but he won't.
Try something completely different... it might not work. Ask him to play "animal, vegetable, mineral" with you. If he is willing that should make for some nice light-hearted conversation.
Maybe it's time to ask him out to do something as friends... like hang out or go to a movie. This will show him you are trying harder.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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