she took my ex and now flirts with my man

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Ok...i was with this boy on and off for about a year... he was my 1st EVERTHING if u no wat i mean... i even lost a baby with him n he used to hit me but "i loved him"... my friend new all of this and gave me so many reasons y i shuld leave him n i did... well i culdnt completely get over him so we still remained friends and i moved on and found a boyfriend who i am still with today... now just recently my ex tranfers to my school!!! i was lik omg! u cant b doing this 2 me... but i got over it even tho it was so hard 2 c him in the hallways knowin all we've been thru... now my friend who i told everything to lets call her "D"... D went up 2 my ex n was lik o so ur the 1 i heard so much about n frum den on dey we very tyte... 2 make a longer stry short they strt dating eachother!!! was i jealous? i don think so i mean y shuld i b hes my ex n i am in love with my current boyfriend... but she was soo wrong... how u tell me not 2 go out with him n then YOU do! now "D" n my current boyfriend r friends... dey neva met but tlk a lot over the computer since they both know me... but is it wrong of me 2 tell her NOT 2 tlk 2 him nemore b/c im mad at her? like what if she tries to take him frum me 2?!!! plZ help me i dont want 2 put my boyfriend in this but how could she?!! what makes me think she wont try 2 flirt with my current boyfriend neither? n i should i still be her friend? im so confused Advice
Since you two are friends, it is not unusual for you two to like similar kind of guys.

That explains why she started dating your ex. And it helps explain why she is connecting with your b/f.

Have a talk with her. Be gentle, caring, and honest. Tell her that you were upset when she started dating your ex but you understand now. But also tell her that you would be more comfortable if she didn't talk so much to your b/f. You should also tell your b/f that it hurts you when he spends so much time with her.

Good luck! George

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