Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am seven months pregnant and so alone. My boyfriend never spends any time with me outside of our home. I don't have to work, so I get to stay at home all day and basically do whatever I want. I can sleep late, eat all day, watch movies, or just play on the internet. He works, but not all the time. He is in a family business, so he will be paid even if he doesn't go to work. He always tells me that we will go to the movies or to the park but we NEVER go. He only spends time with me when we're watching a movie together or when we are having sex. This makes me feel so unwanted, because he never takes me out in public and he's always cancelling our plans to be with his friends. He has no problem with how I look because my body is the same except for the stomach. I cry EVERY single day about this same issue and when I try to talk about it with him, he says that
I should just be content or if I'm not happy thenI should leave. I love him......so I can't just leave, but this is affecting the way I feel about myself. like there is something wrong with me. What can I do to make it through this emotional roller coaster??? I really feel like I am going to have a breakdown.
He is obviously not being fair with you.
You have told him how you feel and he just shuts you down.
Definitely get out of the house both during the day and the evening too. Go to a movie or restaurant with friends so you don't feel so pent up.
Your mood is probably also bothered by your pregnancy. Talk with your gynecologist about this.
Don't let this problem slide, your b/f could get worse after the baby is born if you can't get him to change his ways now. Try to have a long, gentle, honest and trusting talk with him and get his feelings. Try not to settle for the answers he's been giving you so far.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com