Dating my College Girl Friend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
For sometime now about 8 months me and this girl in college have become really good friends, we talk to each other about anything and everything. She had a boyfriend for most of this time but about 4 weeks ago i found out she is not with him, i aint seen that much of her because our exams are near so we are on study break. I went over hers a couple of times cos she asked for my help with coursework. I didnt wanna pressure her or ask her out because she had only just broken up with him and they were together for about 9 months.
When i texted her she didnt always reply i asked her how she was feeling and that if she was alright. But she never replyed so i was really confused as to if she liked me even as a friend.
Anyway the other day she text me out of the blue to say shes going into college and if i wanted to meet her. I said yeah and we met up she was in a real good mood, she was full of fun and we made each other laugh it felt like before she split with her boyfriend. On the way home she kept skipping and dancing and singing and trying to get me to sing with her. We kept laughing and joking, and she really seemed excited about something i thought maybe theres someone else shes found but i know there is not. I was wondering if maybe she likes me more than a friend because of the way she was acting, ive got the feeling before because we spend so much time together in college just me and her, and shes asked me round her house.
Now that were at the end of college i wont her as much. so i was wondering if i should ask her out maybe just as friends during the summer and then maybe more will progress. Ive wanted to for ages but she was with her boyfriend and then when she split up i thought i should give her plenty of room. Its been almost 4 weeks now and she seems over him, should i ask her out or let things progress as friends.
Its really hurting me not being able to tell her and i dont know if its a good thing now thats shes not with him because now it means i have to make that move, just incase she finds someone else and its too late. before i was in a comfort zone i knew i couldnt ask her out, because she had a boyfriend. Now shes single im kinda scared to make a move incase she rejects me and she doesnt wanna be friends afterwards.
Since all great relationships are based on great friendships, you guys are on the right path. You just need to keep it moving along, progressing towards closer and closer friendship. I have tips on that here -
it sounds like she already likes you a lot, so good luck!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com