logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
We don't love qualities, we love persons; sometimes by reason of their defects as well as of their qualities. --Jacques Maritain



Dealing with Jealousy



Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
ok i've read almost every question here because i know i am a jealous person and it has gotten me out of control. i have the most wonderful boyfriend in the world and i wouldn't want to loose him because of my insecurities.. we've been going out for 9 months now and im trying to control my every urge of jealousy but i just don't know where to start??

i know its based on trust and communication, but what do we actually talk about?? we both know i have this problem and we've recently talked about it and i told him i would do my very best to change... but where do i start? how do i change???




RomanceClass.com Advice
I have a ton of information on Jealousy here -

http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/jealousy/index.asp

It's very good that you're actively working on this because, as you saw in the other questions, jealousy can completely destroy a relationship that was otherwise perfect!

You ask what to talk about. The point isn't that you guys just babble mindlessly because you need "to talk". :) The point is that you guys should always be sharing how you feel, what you worry about, what you hope for, what you dream about, so that you always know what each other is thinking. If your boyfriend is really hoping that in 6 months he gets a new job and moves to another state, it would be something very important for you guys to discuss! If you were feeling a bit lonely when he left and wished he didn't leave for so long, you should tell him!

It's those little worries and hopes and dreams and fears you talk about. That way they don't grow into BIG situations before anybody knows about it. There are tons and tons of relationships that fall apart and one person says "I never knew anything was wrong". That's because the other person never mentioned the issue, thinking it was minor. But unless you talk about minor issues, they become major issue without you realizing it, and then they cause serious problems.

So talk about things you feel, things you want, things you like, things that bother you. Talk about the movies you want to see, the way that you felt about movies you've already see, the hobbies you are interested in learning more about, the plans you have for your future.

Saying "I will change" is a nice thing - but you need to sit down and actually take active steps. Any time you start to feel jealous - THE VERY SECOND IT STARTS - stop and think about it. Don't ignore it, don't let it build. Ask yourself why? Why do you feel threatened? Remind yourself that you should NOT feel threatened by whatever it is. And actively do things to make you feel good about yourself!

-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com





Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - Jealousy Issues

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

origami wedding favors