My ex and i love eachother but we're on a break, what should i do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Me and this girl i had been dating for 4 months just broke up a few weeks ago. I'ts been really hard for me, and i know it has been hard for her too. Neither of us want to not be together, but things werent working out as they were. The first two months were perfect, but then after having spent pretty much all of our spare time together she decided to go hang out with an ex boyfriend of her, whom i knew she had been in love with, and did not get over for nearly a year.I dont know if i was scared or jealous or what but i got depressed, and started to feel as though she wasnt showing me enough affection. it only lasted a day and we talked it out and everything was fine. but i started feeling like that more often, every few weeks at first then about once a week for the next two months. Things continued to get worse, adn she stopped wanting to be intimite with me, which hurt my feeling alot, we had already gone on a break once, but it only lasted a few hours because we missed eachother. but a few days after out 4 month anniversary, after her having not wanted to be intimate with me for almost a month, and us not quite arguing but not quite leaving eachother on good terms for a few nights a week, we decided to take a real break, adn have been apart for two weeks. the first week though we were still kissing in private because we missed eachother. but that got too confusing and now we are really over it seems. but i know she still loves me and i am still very much in love with her. she seems even more unhappy than when things were bad in our relationship, but she still thinks its a good idea to be on a break. i just want to know what i should do. should i try to move on. should i wait. should i try and patch things up, i dont think this break is really working for either of us. and if we did try to work things out how should i go about it?
Your troubles began when she started seeing her ex.
Is he still in the picture? If he is then you would be returning to the situation you just left. Probably the same thing would happen between you again. So unless you can figure out some solution to that problem, then my advice is to let things go with her. If he is history or you can convince her to avoid him then there is a chance your relationship will work.
Hope it works out! George
-- from George
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