does she know what she wants?

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
long story short the girl that i like i was best friends with for a little while. Then when i met up with her again i tried my best to impress her but only got mixed signals. Helped her through the good and the bad. Though for some reason i never let her help me through the bad. Dont exactly know why. It wasnt pride. But i think i just didnt want to worry her about me. Anyway now i find out that after ALL this time. 8 months. she had a long distance guy she kind of liked.

Yep. Wow. So ive been dedicating my heart, time and mind to her this whole time and she has liked somebody else a bit too? Was she using me as the "near home" guy to have somebody around until her long distance relationship visits? She tells me that she doesnt know if things will work out anyway. But i have been keeping my distance for some time. Ive told her i care. She knows that i have feelings for her. She knows. NOBODY could be so thick headed. Now she acts differently. We hang out at better places. Have more fun. Flirt more. But she is still waiting on this guy to visit. Is there any point in sticking around? Is she just using me for affection until he shows up? Is she trying to say that if things dont work out with him ill have a shot. She makes it sound like things probably arent gonna work out with this guy cause its long distance anyway. But that would make me her back up!

What is your take on this? What is she thinking? What is she doing with me right now? What does she think of me?

Like i said i hang out with her and flirt more but i also hang out with her less. We are both 19.

Any opinion would be greatly appreciated. Advice
Keep doing what you are doing, it seems to be working out ok.

Once this guy visits is the time to have a long, honest talk with her and find out how she feels.

Sounds like she is keeping you around as a security blanket while she waits to see what develops with the long distance guy.

Good luck! George

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