need help:all or nothing?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
This is a bit complicated. I'll start off at what happened last year. i had a secret crush on a senior (12th)and well, i finally mustered all my courage to talk to him. it was toward the end of the year and i couldn't bear his leaving without knowing about me. so what i did is, i wrote him a letter which told him that i liked him and have been attracted to him for some time, but i also said that i didn't expect anything to happen by my telling him that i like him, i just didn't want him going off without knowing what i felt for him. I was a scared of how he would react, but my fears were dispelled when he looked into my eyes, smiled and formally introduced himself. From then on, whenever he saw me he would smile and color would creep into his face. i was the happiest person in the world. I had a flight to Boston the week before his graduation and i would be gone for 2 weeks. when school would be out. anyway, he invited me to watch his game, which was on the day before boston. the next day, the day of my flight, we had an intense convo - we talked about things that i couldnt normally talk about with other people. we were on a bench under the setting sun for 2 hours. i asked for his number and he asked if he could hug me. i knew that he was the person i could spend the rest of my life with. after i came back from boston, the intense convos continued, that is until he left for the UK for his vacation. everything changed abruptly, he told me he had a girlfriend, i was crushed and i was a wreck while he was off in the UK - on july 7, the day of the attacks. i wanted to call him so bad when he came back, but decided against. i waited for him to call but he didn't, then i remembered that i told him i didn't expect anything from him, so i forced myself to stick to my word. I never called him and we went our seperate ways. i missed his friendship, his warmth and his creativity, everything about him i love and miss. it's been 9 months and i still think about him. he's drivng me crazy. in my mind, i've kissed his lips a thousand times and he's always there.it's like the thought of him has prevented me from being in any relationships and i feel like i need him in my life. but i fear that it may be too late. that is until i saw him last week at my track meet. i stopped dead in my tracks and whatver i was saying froze on my lips. he looked at me with regret in his eyes, and he was beeing friendly, asking casual questions and then we just went our seperate ways. i don't know why i didn't just tell him what was going on, if it was pride that kept me from calling him again and i want to know if you think i should call him or just leave it alone. it is possible to be friends? Help!
Tes it is possible to be friends.
Get on the telephone and ask him to be your friend. He probably misses talking with you a lot.
Don't let pride get in the way of something that could be wonderful.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com