subtle way

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hay Alice,

I am a girl from Holland and I would like to ask you a question. My English writing is not that greet so I hope you understand me.

There is this gay who is a fitness instructor at our sport centre. He is also a student. First I didn't notice him, but the more time I spend in the gym the more I got interested. First I saw him watching me trough a glass. But I didn't take it personal because I run very long and fast on the treadmill so I though that was the reason why he was watching. Everyone looks at me when I am on the treadmill so that doesn't say much. Then there was this moment where he was walking in front of me in the hallway. I was walking behind him. Suddenly he turned his head and looked at me. He was really happy at that moment because I saw how he was walking. I was watching how fit he looked and so didn't expect that he would turn his head. I was a little bit chocked and looked down at my feet. A couple of day's later I was at the university and he walked strait at me. I felt someone walking towards me so I looked a side. I was so surprised to see him there. Somehow I didn't expect that he was a student too. I am 20 and I think he is 24/5.
There was also another incident. Before I was interested in him I had asked him to make a fitness program (on paper). While he was writing and asking me questions he looked at me strait in the eyes. The entire time. It felt a bit strange. There was this tension that I could not explain. I also looked at his eyes the entire time.

Know every time that we see itch other our eyes meet and for a couple of seconds we watch itch other. We both never smile and every time there is this tension I can not explain. He always looks in a special way. One time he was talking with a co-worker and he stopped talking as I was leaving. Then, outside on my bike, I looked and he was still watching trough the window. Again we starred at itch other. Then I left.

The present situation: Every time he is in the same space he is nervous with his feet. He is a bit jumpy/energetic. I can't belief that he likes me, but the signals are there. Or am I seeing things that aren't there. What does it mean when you watch itch other so intense without smiling. Is he in to me or not? He seems a bit shy/careful too just like me. And how can I, in a subtle way, find out if he likes me without losing face? And what can I do besides looking back for a couple of seconds. How can I show him also in a subtle way that I am seriously interested? I want to keep on finessing there so I have to be careful!

I like the rush I am feeling but I am also tired of wondering
I hope you can give me some advice. Advice
He is definitely interested in you.

The way to subtlely let him know you are interested is to give him a big smile whenever you see him. Also wave at him if you want to.

Both of you will feel the rush even more strongly and he should build up the courage to ask you out... or you could ask him out.

Good luck! George

-- from George
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