Should I take him back?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am now 22 and my ex is 21. We started dating when I was 18 and he was 17. It started out as a long distance relationship til I came home from school. Things were going good at first, but right after our 1st anniversary things changed. He spent less and less time with me and I later found out had been cheating on me for 4 months. We broke up and he choose to be with the other girl. About 3 months later I met someone that I was interested in and began talking to him. Well my ex found out and decided he "wanted me in his future", I then took him back. Less than a year the time we spent together started decreasing again and he broke up with me in the summer for about 2 months then got right back together. The last straw came in August 2005 when I just couldn't take it anymore. He wouldn't answer my calls, never spent time with me and I figured he was cheating so I ended it. A week later he already had a new girlfriend. I cut off all contact until he e-mailed me February 2006 just asking how I was doing. The first conversation was pretty bad, I let all of my anger out on him. But after that conversation I couldn't stop thinking about him and I started to miss him. We talked two times after that and they were more civil and we talked about what went wrong in our relationship. Well now it's April and he has broken up with his girlfriend and says he wants to be with me. He says that I did nothing wrong in the relationship and that he was being young and dumb, and that he has feelings for me that just won't go away even though he has been with other girls. I have not been with anyone other than him in the last 4 years. We went out on a "date" a couple days ago and it felt like time never passed between us. Should we try one last time or do I just need to move on?
Sure, try one last time.
But be ready for another breakup... that seems to be the pattern.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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