I Messed up Now how do i Fix it
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex and I broke up in September because basically she was tired of all the drama I was creating. She kept giving me chances, like she would not date anyone else or anything and we would still talk everyday and still kind of be like boyfriend and girlfriend but not. Well a few weeks ago, I thought I found out some things about her having sex with a married guy and I was going to tell his wife and her parents and things like that because I was hurt. Well it came out to be that she wasn't and she was really hurt by me threatening her and took that as me not loving her and she moved on. She has a new boyfriend who she says she is falling in love with but I think she really just likes him because he's there and he doesn't provide the problems I did. She keeps telling me get out of her life, she doesn't want anything to do with me at all but I can tell she still loves me. She doesn't think I love her and I do a lot. I can't get her out of my head. I have given her flowers, wrote her letters, done a lot of those cute things and it doesn't seem to work at all. I can't just get her out of her life, it is so hard on me not to talk to her and I have been going days without talking to her. I want her back, but how?
A few weeks ago you were ready to go to a guy's wife and your ex's parents to report that they were having an affair. Then, surprise!, it wasn't true. That is drama to the max.
Now a few weeks later you can't understand why she isn't interested in you... or you also think she still loves you.
You need to step back and take a close look at yourself and find out that you over-react to things, you misunderstand people's feelings, and have occasional poor judgement.
Sorry to sound so grim, but that's the way I see it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com