he is thinking of reconciling with his ex wife
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been dating this man for about 2 years.In that span, we have broken up 3 times.I met my boyfriend while i was going through a divorce and so was he. We both had 2 kids each from previous marriage.His divorce is a long battle as his wife fights about everything and a lot of money is at stake.Family wealth from him.To cut it short, the wife uses the kids as pawn.At one stage he could not see his boys for 6 months and everytime he is stress or depressed he will break things off with me. I love this man and has no doubt about his love for me but he.s got a lot on his plate right now and i don't have that much problem with my ex husband.His wife bump into us at a restaurant 2 months ago and created a scene.They been married for 15 years and this is the second time he left her AND file for the divorce 2 years ago and still going.His wife still wants him back.After that incident, his wife let him see his kids every time.My ex boyfriend then decided that he wants to end us again to concentrate on the kids saying he don't want to do both.I am devasted.I love this man and now he tells me that he has drop the divorce and moving back again.I am not convince cause the resentment towards the ex is great and he said he is not in love with her but he is doing this for the boys.Please help, i don't want to lose him forever.What should i do.He has not move in yet.
You are standing between two strong forces.
One is a dad's love for his kids and the other is the kids' love for their dad.
My guess is you are going to lose this one but if you want to try, keep telling him you love him and that things will work out with his kids once the divorce is final. Then he won't have to worry about seeing them once the judge decrees visiting rights.
Moping around will definitely not help you. Be cheerful and loving. Make him his favorite meals and suggest interesting things to do that he likes. Ask his kids along for interesting daytrips or sports events.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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