I'm confused but want him back
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, my husband and I have been together for 4yrs and would of been married two years in July. We were yound he is 23 and I am only 20. We have worked through alot of problems as many do. But six months ago he cheated on me then called said it was over. For the first month we were getting divorced and now for the last 5mths he swears and declares he still in love with me and doesn't want a divorce BUT he has a g/friend. I know the relationship is not the best because she repeatedly cheats on him (every w/end). Every little chance he gets he tries he will drop in or will invite me over to watch movies etc and has oftened tried to sleep with me but I have told him NO. What makes it harder is that we do have a child together so we see eachother everyday anyways. I would love to sort everything out and get back together but when I suggest we talk about stuff he is not interested and gets very cranky. My only thoughts on the anger is the fact of guilt. I am very confused because he always wants to see me and tells me nearly everyday that he loves me but won't dump the g/friend. What should I do?
You need to get the message through to him.
The message is dump your girlfriend and we can have a happy life together with our child.
Tell him gently and straightforwardly so that he won't get hostile vibes from you. Also, a gentle approach won't drive him away.
He's probably trying to find a face-saving way to come back to you. Try to help him figure it out.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com