I am in love, and I am his first - scared to lose him!!!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We both have promise rings and are incredibly happy. I constantly find myself not "being the perfect girlfriend" because in a sense I am so freaked out to lose him to another so i react to him the opposite (negative) way. I have a lot of experience behind me but I am HIS first for EVERYTHING that has to do with relationships and sex. He says and shows me he's IN love with me and we talk a lot about our future, BUT he's very uneasy when it comes to trying to get an answer if I am the one for him. I have made it clear that if he were to ask my hand in marriage, I would say yes... and it does make him extactic to know, but he never responds with any of his feelings that serious for me. Is it possible that we may have a long -term future together? Is it normal to be a little uneasy about us lasting from my point of view? Is it true (in a sense) that your first never lasts?
First thing is to stop being negative to him.
That's going to get you nowhere fast. This could be the reason that he is hesitating about a stronger commitment.
It's not surprising that you are wondering about your relationship, but don't react so strongly about it or you will make it worse.
Instead concentrate on how good things are going -- which they are.
It is not true that your first never lasts, there are 100s of thousands of couples that disprove that theory. Don't give up on this.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com