What's wrong with me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok, so, I seem to have a problem getting closer to people, girls specifically. I AM NOT SHY, but when i start getting close, for reasons I can't explain, I go mean on them. I do it to everyone I get "to close" to.
I've been listening to Love Line and it gor me thinking that there's an underlying reason for this. Is there any specific reasons or things that I can do to help get over this? Like, saying think before you act or things that seem obvious, I've tried.
It sounds like you have a fear of closeness.
Every time you start to get close to someone you do things to drive them away.
Make sure you smile often when you talk. A smile does wonders for both the smiler and the smilee. Listen carefully to what the other person says and take an immediate interest and respond appropriately. Practice sharing your own positive feelings. Get used to saying "I like" and making positive comments about other peoplle. All of these techniques will make you more likeable.
Remind yourself when you interact with people that you want to be closer to them. Eliminate the negative thoughts and feelings and strengthen your positive feelings.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com