How to get rebuild my friendship with her?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi George, I need you help... again.
Well, the girl that I've told you lately, started completly ignoring me when I asked a friend of mine to talk with her about what I feel for her. I talked with her about it and she told me she would stop ignoring me, and that she was only doing that to cut my hopes, but I didn't have hopes alredy when she started doing that.
Things started to get better after that, but I realised that things were a lot better when she ignored that I love her, maybe in December, that was the time when were closest, we even went to the cinema and some other day she hugged me.
So, now that I explained my situation better, let's get to the point.
How can I rebuild the friendship that I've once had with her?
Since we're in the same class, saying hello every time I see her, it's a bit silly, at least I think so.
I need some thing that really helps me to rebuild our friendhip, since it's impossible to have more than it, at least for now.
I think that she started getting tired of me, from some time ago to now, it got better when I talked do her, but now there are awkward moments again, and It's destroying me to know that.
Sometimes, after some evaluation tests, she gets sad, but I never tried to confort her, because I'm afraid of her possible reaction and that she gets angry with me.
Should I do that, and tell that even tough she doesn't like me and I'm trying to get over her, that I care about her and that I want to help her?
I need conversation topics to talk with her, because since she started to get away of me things became really bad to me.
Please help me, I love her, altough I'm trying to get over her, I still care about her, and I'm not indifferent about the way she feels, When she is sad, I get sad too, but when she's happy, I'm better, but I wish that I could be with her.
Thank you a lot, I will keep you informed .)
Yes, staying friends with her is the thing to do.
You don't have to say hi everytime you see her but at least give her a smile.
Conversation topics should relate to your feeling and hers. Talk about family, friends, pets, school activities, music, teachers, classes, etc. Be prepared with a subject or two to talk about when you meet her.
Here is a webpage on what to talk about:
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com