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Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I know I'm young, but I had moved to a place where no one got me and I made the best friend that I have ever had in someone I ended up with. Yeah, it sounds soooo hokey at this point. We were 12 when we met and dated two years. We were INSEPERABLE! Neither of us had ANY other friends it was soley me and him. We even switched schools together because we never felt "accepted." See, Edmond was the place where everyone was so judgemental, and it's sooo hard to describe it unless you lived there. There was something about us though we were that "forever kind." WE NEVER FOUGHT.....EVER!!!! We were all eachother had and I still feel like he was my soul mate...you know you have those people that are suposed to be in your life because they know everything about you, and know what you are about to say and say it better for you...that was him for me. It was soo much more than chemistry (which we had so much that it was just...heavy...everyone around us could feel it)we took things soo slow. He didnt kiss me until after five monthes. I was his first kiss...and lated found out his first girlfriend.He was so shy and then we just fit together. It was litterally like A MARRIGE we spent every moment together and there was NO WAY it would ever change. That's the hard thing. IT NEVER CHANGED! My parents divorced in the summer. My dad stayed there and we moved forty five minutes away (PIECE OF CAKE DRIVE) Well, I noticed he got bitter. Bad bitter...and Edmond did that to me when I was all alone before he moved there. He stopped talking to me and I BECAME CLINGY COMPULSIVE which is so not like me...It was like...never fighting...just TENSION always...and it was like we were so jelouse of eachother. He wanted to live here where I could fit in and breath. He wanted what I had and all I wanted was him. He never talked about school and would ask about school and when I told him it was good he'd say cutting things. Finally he told me he didn't love me and there was nothing left in him and he didn't wanna try to love me anymore. I don't get it. I still don't. I never talked to him again until a few weeks ago. See, he dated a girl,after bouncing from her and her best friend(who's close to me) the thing is HE'S NEVER BEEN LIKE THAT...ALWAYS DEEP...CONSIDERAT..RESPECTFUL AND MORTIFIED OF GIRLS! I know her and knowing Edmond it wasn't fullfilling...no worries...well, she dumped himFive monthes later. He sounded so vacant and empty and I'd ask him "how have you been?" and he'd reply with "eh" or "ugh" and I'd go.."Im sorry to hear that." We talked about old times and he SUPRISED ME by reading my old love letters he saved to me.See we've always had AMAZING intuition about eachother's hearts, I can always know what he feels(it was odd because I was having a breakdown and the day I called that girl had broke it off the day before) He said he keeps my picture behind a frame on the wall with all our private stuff so his family doesn't find it. The next call I wanted to talk and he was REALLY down and I made him feel a lil better...he'd always end with saying "I wanna talk again" the last time he was A TOTAL JERK but still ended it with "I wanna talk again." I called him FEW AND FAR BETWEEN...He NEEDS TO WORK AT BEING MY FRIEND...He never called in the end of things wither. I don't know exactly what it is. I have tried everything from dating around and blocking him out to reincluding him. The bottom line is I AM ALWAYS DOWN because he won't confide in me anymore...I dunno if he loves me..that doesn't matter I just wonder how something so big couldn't hold weight in his heart. I gave him fullfillment because he told me that on the phone. I DON'T GET THIS. My mom said that maybe we have to know what it's like to be apart before we can be back together I mean Edmond IS ONLY 45 min. away...either way...I AM STILL SO ALONE IN THE WORLD BECAUSE I LOST THE ONLY ONE WHO GOT ME...what do I do??!
A good idea would be to see him again in person.
Your dad still lives there, right? Get your dad to help you with your problem. He could provide a ride so that you and your ex could go somewhere to be alone and talk. Perhaps you could reconnect in person.
If your dad doesn't work out, maybe there is a bus or train that will take you back to your hometown and you could see him while staying at a friend's house. Or maybe both of you could take a bus and meet in between and do things on your own.
All is not lost until you give up. But, be realistic too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com