What do I do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My ex and I have been dating for about 2 years. The first year was just perfect but after an incident he completely lost my trust and the relationship started going downhill. We both tried to fix it but things kept getting worse. Both of us went through so much together. However, we ended up hurting each other so much that I decided it was better to be broken up. After the breakup, I tried to be friends with him but he doesn't want to be friends. He wanted me to leave him alone, so I did. However, he sometimes contacts me and tells me he misses me but soon starts swearing at me and yelling at me for ruining the relationship and ruining his life. He started blaming everything that went wrong in his life on me, and I am scared because he is a completely different person now. I still want to be friends with him and I still love him and want to be there for him when he needs me, but its so hard to do that for him when all he does is swear and yell at me. Why is he blaming everything on me? I admit there are things that I did wrong, but not everything is my fault. Is there a chance that he and I will be friends in the future? He says he will never talk to me unless we were going to get back together, but I just dont see that happening when he is acting so mean to me. I dont know what to do. Please help me.
He is angry because he is still hurting from the breakup.
If you want to, you can help him get over his anger by making him look at himself and his responsibilities. The next time he gets out of control tell him you admit you made mistakes but didn't he make mistakes too? If he is unwilling to admit his mistakes, then warn him you will have to hang up unless he can be realistic and tone down his conversation.
If this doesn't work then stop taking his calls because all he is looking is for someone to dump on.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com