Hiding a Hickey
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I am 13 yrs old and I am not allowed to have hickeys! Well this boy I like gave me one...and hes not my boyfriend either! My mom still dont know I have a hickey on my neck, should I tell her and take the punishment or should I hide it?
You'll learn in life that the more you lie and betray people, the less they will treat you like a person that can be trusted. So every single time you choose to lie, the more you'll think lying is easier, the less people will trust you, and the less you will trust others because you'll start to assume that THEY are lying. It may seem sort of silly, but what you do now can really damage how you relate to people and how they relate to you for the rest of your life, because you're just starting on that path.
I know it sucks to be yelled at. But it sucks even more to be treated like an 8 year old for the next 5 years of your life because nobody trusts you. And YOU are the one to prove to them that you can be trusted. So go up to your mom and say that you know you made a mistake by trusting this guy. That you thought he was your friend, and that it got out of control. That you're very sorry and wanted to be honest with her.
It's hard to believe, but your mom was 13 once and had the exact same hormones and desires and things in her own body. She knows exactly what it was like. And when she gets upset with you it's because she also knows that girls your age get pregnant, and beaten up, and all sorts of nasty things by mean guys and she wants to protect you from those things.
As a side note, if you have a boyfriend, you really should think hard about just why you get this other guy get that close to you. Part of being mature enough to have a boyfriend is being mature enough to HONOR that relationship and be faithful to him. If you aren't yet capable of doing that, you really shouldn't be dating a guy. That's incredibly unfair, to tell him you are his girlfriend and then to go betray him.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com