Is this love, or is it a crush?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi, i'm in love with a guy 1 years younger than me. i been through alot with him. at first he didn't care at all for me and he also told me to not to even speak or look at him. he made me cry alot but afterwards i started to forget about him and started to ignore him.
after a week he started to follow me to my lessons and stare at me but i don't know why and now he keeps searching the school for me because he wants to talk to me but i don't be around.
i think im worried i don't now how to face him why is this and what should i do?
OK first, you don't love him. You have a crush on him. Love is something that develops after you've been with someone for months. It comes from really understanding them, trusting them, knowing they would care for and protect you and that you would do the same for him.
This guy has already show he can be mean to you, cruel to you, actively hurt you. And the only reason he's now chasing you is that you went away, and no guy likes to think he can be left. He wants to get you to like him again just to prove that he can.
My advice is that a guy who can be mean to you like that is NOT someone you want to be ANYWHERE near. Guys should be caring and tender, and protect you. A guy capable of actively harming a girl just because they feel like it are guys to stay far, far, far away from.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com