i still love her, but she doesnt love me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend dated for a little over 11 months and I was really in love with her. Then she told me i was starting to get on her nerves and what i was doing to bug her. A few days later i called her and asked if she was still happy with us. I told her i still was but i wanted to know her personal opinion about it. She said she didnt know and that night she broke up with. She said she thought we were more like friends then boyfriend and girlfriend. She wasnt sure what love was so i used some of teh examples off your site and thats what we really had. She thinks love is where you get butterflies in your stomach and see the twinkle in their eye when your with them. I tried to explain that that wasnt real love, and i'm not sure if she got it. She told me after we broke up that she felt like a huge burden had been lifted off her chest and i thought that maybe i had been crowding her and just to give her time. Around a week later i started using all the tips on your site about trying to get your ex back but nothing seemed to work and she told me i was really getting on her nerves. I still love her alot, but i dont know how i can get her back and get her to fall back in love with me because i know she was the one. Sorry this was so long. i wanted to give you all the details so that maybe(hopefully)you would be able to help me
You need to give her space.
Ask her if it is ok for you to call her once a week just to see how she is doing. If she says yes, you can take the opportunity to let her know that you still care for her. But don't get into your relationship. Be cheerful and keep the call to 15 mins.
Take advantage of her offer to be friends. Friendships will often blossom into romances as you know.
Acknowledge the fact that you might not be able to get her back again so that your mind and heart will slowly start to heal.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com