Is the relationship at it's end or can it be worked through?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I cheated on my boyfriend of 11 months twice with my ex. I have held contact with my ex for 8 full months denying it the entire time. Finally he asked me to tell him the truth, and well the truth was told. He took it hard, told me it was unforgiveable and unforgetable. I even moved out and back in with my parents. He couldn't handle the bills on his own and needed to move back with his parents (in a different city) as well. We are now trying to save the relationship for the 3rd time since. And another thing, I'm 7 and a half months pregnant with my boyfriends' baby. But you also have to keep in mind, throughout those 8 months this guy was NO star boyfriend either. I was left with the bills half the time because he was out of a job. He has sold drugs, which I totally disagree with. And of course, I have had my own suspisions that he has cheated on me as well. So I figure hey lets' call it even and be done with it! Well as I said, this is the third time trying to work on the relationship and it's very difficult because of the distance being added onto the problem. For one he still smokes weed, which I do not agree with and tells me that's something he will never give up. He's once again out of a job, because he's SO SURE he'll get a better one soon. He hangs out with/calls friends (that are girls) all the time, which I have a little problem with. He's often disrespectful and rude with me too. AND he still checks out other girls, and puts these half naked celebs on his phone as his wallpaper.....meanwhile I'm here working full time, trying to convince myself to work on the relationship all I can, and attempting to look past certain flaws. I'm getting really sick and tired of the things he does and says? When do I draw the line? Whats' worse is that he's really not showing any signs of improvement. And when he gets pissed off he tells me how he'll never forgive me, how things are basically all my fault, and just pins everything on me and what I did. (Totally ignoring what he's doing/done.) Can this relationship be saved?
My advice is to give up on this guy.
He shows no signs of self-improvement and has several bad habits which you should want to avoid. He blames you for everything and won't face up to his own faults.
You don't want him to drag you down to his level. Keep your good job and stay with your parents until things change for you.
You have only been with him 11 months... so write it off as a loss and say goodbye to him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com